Friday, March 11, 2016

{friday philosophy} cancer sucks

sometimes i come across a quote that bears some kind of significance and i want to share it with you dear readers.  sometimes it's based on where i am in life or a certain event, sometimes a quote just reminds me of a friend, or sometimes it makes me think.

let me just throw this out there:  cancer sucks.  (i think we can all agree on that one.)

it's pretty safe to say that we have all been touched by cancer in some way.  whether you have lost a loved one or stood by them as they fought with all their might or if it was you yourself that received the diagnosis you never thought possible, cancer reaches into the depths of your soul and forces you to rise above.

a friend of mine was recently diagnosed with cancer.  to say that my heart was immediately in my throat with tears flowing would be an understatement.  i was floored by the news and heartbroken for the diagnosis.  you see, my friend ben is more than a friend.  he's the owner of my gym, kdr fitness, he is an incredible coach, he is intelligent, healthy, caring, strong and funny, and he performed our wedding ceremony.  so to me, this diagnosis struck a very sensitive nerve.

after hearing the news, i went through the 'normal' questions to the cancer websites and to the universe: why?

and then i realized that 'why' wasn't as important as 'how'.

how can i help?
how can i contribute to the fight?
how can we move forward in a positive way?

and today i am sad for my friend, but happy for the future...because "at any given moment YOU have the POWER to say THIS IS NOT HOW MY STORY IS GOING TO END."

"you have cancer" is one of the worst things you ever want to hear.  but this is true:  "cancer is not a death sentence, but rather it is a life sentence; it pushes one to live." ~ marcia smith

i feel like life offers us so many powerful lessons and sometimes they come to us in ways we never imagined.  but regardless of where you are or what you're going through, you always have the power to be positive.

ben has started a blog to document his journey kicking cancer's please check out his first post!  he's a great writer and has a lot of valuable information to share.

and our kdr fitness family, who has proven their love and generosity through many charitable programs we have participated in, will be participating in the relay for life on june 4th.  if you'd like to make a contribution to our team, visit our page!  every dollar counts!  all proceeds go to cancer research, lobbying efforts by the american cancer society's cancer action network (acscan), wig programs, travel aid, camps, etc.

thank you for helping us fight the good fight.  

f*ck cancer!

Monday, January 4, 2016

2016 word of the year {growth}

happy new year! it's hard to believe 2015 came and went so quickly. i had, like most of us, a year with lots of ups and downs. many things went as planned, some very unexpected things happened, but in the end i feel lucky to have made it through with a healthy body and a heart overflowing with love.

my first year choosing a word of the year was 2014 -- i chose {love} for my descriptor and motivator for the year. it was the year i married my best friend and while i didn't really need a reminder to love and be loved, it was a nice way to honor the emotion that would take over my heart and soul.

for 2015 i chose {fearless} because that's what i wanted to be. i think i successfully lived fearlessly last year -- even competing in my first powerlifting competition. i am always down for an adventure, but sometimes it's the simple things that cripple me from taking a leap...having the word {fearless} in the back of my mind all year helped me dive in and live out loud.

For 2016 i chose {growth}. i want to grow -- in my goals, in my relationships, in every aspect of my life -- i want to be better, do better, and growing is how that will happen.

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so that is my inspiration for 2016 -- to grow in love, to grow in life...because i want to utilize every day as a way to improve.

what word will you choose for 2016?


Friday, August 21, 2015

{friday philosophy} oh hi!

hello?  is anyone out there?  i'm here, i swear!

after a many-month hiatus, i'm really excited to get back into blogging.  there have been a couple reasons why mkp sat in silence, primarily that my laptop stopped functioning.  but also -- i've been intensely busy and enjoying every minute of it.

mike and i are very much loving married life have truly tried to soak up life without it passing us by.  

i've got some great plans for this little blog, so hang tight!  in the meantime, i thought i would ease my way back into this space with a little reflection.

and, if you're new around here, this is friday philosophy:  sometimes i come across a quote that bears some kind of significance and i want to share it with you dear readers.  sometimes it's based on where i am in life or a certain event, sometimes a quote just reminds me of a friend, or sometimes it makes me think.

one of my automatic responses to "how are you?" this summer has been: "so busy!"  behind it is absolutely zero stress about being that busy, contrary to the usual emotion you feel when your schedule is pretty crammed.

somehow i've managed to work about 55 hours every week and workout 3+ times per week...and yet, miraculously, i've still had time to do so much more fun stuff!

  • in february, we traveled to southern nh for a wedding
  • mike went to atlantic city for a friend's bachelor party
  • in april we traveled to northern nh for another wedding
  • we cruised to cozumel in march with mike's family on carnival
  • i joined the kdr fitness staff in april -- working at the front desk
  • i've had so many fun days with many of my girlfriends -- mani/pedi, lunch out, craft nights, dinner out, pool days, cork'n'canvas nights, and of course, just chatting!
  • i participated in my first powerlifting meet in may and am training for my next in october
  • we've celebrated many birthdays with friends and family
  • mike and i have done fun outdoor stuff like snowshoeing and paddleboarding
  • mike and i started house-hunting and even made an offer on a property (no, we didn't get it)
  • we've gone boating almost every weekend at my parents house, either with them, by ourselves, or with friends
  • mike and i saw comedian daniel tosh
  • i did the color vibe 5k with 3 of my best girls
  • mike and i celebrated our first wedding anniversary with a trip to lake george, ny  
  • i rode on a rollercoaster for the first time in 14 years...i was terrified at first, but i LOVED every second of it
  • we went to an incredibly fun 4th of july party with some of the most impressive fireworks we've ever seen
  • i joined the editorial board for a local publication
  • we went with friends to a brad paisley concert and have plans to see little big town next month
  • we've had fun bbqs and nights by the fire with friends
  • mike and i ordered a la-z-boy sofa
  • we've had meals out and grilled at home
  • i've become ADDICTED to criminal minds and currently have 120 episodes on my dvr. #oops 
  • mike and i went to trivia night with friends at Salt hill and even won a couple rounds!
  • and we've just cruised around to enjoy the beautiful scenery we have in this neck of the woods

so, i think you could assess that list and say, "yeah, she's pretty busy!"  and i have absolutely no regrets about it!  2015 has been a very good year so far.  of course, everything hasn't been sunshine, rainbows, and unicorns, but i don't focus on those times.  (like not getting that house.  that's a whole post in itself.)

i chose the word "fearless" for 2015 and i think it has absolutely represented this year well.  and i'm looking forward to more in the coming months.  i've said "yes" to a lot of things and it's helped to open my eyes to experiencing life without waiting.  (i mean, what are you waiting for anyway???)  

so if you look at that above list and say "man, i wish i could've done some of that stuff!", than do it.  i promise that if you say "yes" more and fearlessly look to the future, amazing adventures will happen.  as mike and i look to the future of our relationship and the slightly terrifying thought of adding children to the mix -- it's certainly going to add some chaos, but we're excited to shape their futures through saying "yes" to fun adventures.  

don't hold back because you're "busy" or "have busy kids".  go make memories.  they last a lifetime.

i hope you're ready for this's gonna be a good one. =)

happy friday!

Friday, January 9, 2015

friday philosophy

sometimes i come across a quote that bears some kind of significance and i want to share it with you dear readers.  sometimes it's based on where i am in life or a certain event, sometimes a quote just reminds me of a friend, or sometimes it makes me think.

some days i truly wonder how some people make it through the day.  how can someone be so negative that they can't summon the strength to be nice.  or say "how are you?"  or smile.  and mean it.

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i'm generally a positive person.  i am nice to people.  i genuinely ask, "how are you?"  i smile at friends and strangers alike.

so for me, it's ultimately frustrating that there are so many negative people in the world that simply can't snap out of it.

i've blogged about it i choose to be happy.

but it really, truly bugs me when people can't just be happy...for no good reason.  

are there days when i'm not my cheerful self?  sure.  but, i'm never consistently negative, even with people that i dislike.  and i see people that are consistently negative, even with people they do like.  what gives?

so, i'm challenging myself (and you!) to strive to be have a better look on the bright smile...and mean it.

be gracious.  even when you're frustrated.

be nice.  even when someone else wasn't.

smile.  especially if someone else isn't.

we have all heard the phrase (or something similar) "be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about."  so, let's put it into action.  this world needs more kindness and less negativity.

when your friend posts on facebook that their life something to make it not.

when your co-worker can't muster a "good morning"...say it anyway.  with a smile.

when the cashier at the store is disgruntled...remember to thank them.

when you hold the door for someone who doesn't thank you...wish them well.

when you feel like there is negativity...add positivity.

if we all just try a little harder to be happy and positive, the world will be a better place because of it.

happy friday!

Tuesday, January 6, 2015

2015 goals

as i have fearlessly entered 2015, i've been trying to think of some real, achievable goals that i can set for myself.  most of the goals i set are too general and not specific enough to really truly "reach".

i've been a "eat healthier" or "move more" kind of goal-setter, and for 2015, i'm changing that.  for one, i can set goals.  for two, i can reach those goals.  i just need to be consistent.  and that's the hard part.  amiright?

so, 2015 goals, comin' atcha.

#1:  simplify.

specifically, my closet.  i recently read a post on a beautiful mess called "being content with my closet" which lead me to a post on un-fancy "how to build a capsule wardrobe".  this is important shit, people.

in all seriousness, being overwhelmed in any part of your life isn't good.  even being overwhelmed with the clothes in your closet.  despite it being a first world problem, owning too many clothes has led me to want to de-clutter my closet, and i'm determined it will help me mentally de-clutter other areas of my life.  and, as a bonus, now my excess clothes will be put in the hands of people that need them.

i have a lot of clothes, but not an over-abundance.  when i like a particular shirt, i'm that girl that buys it in every color...but i don't own 14 different shirts...only a few styles in every color.  make sense?

so, i'm taking on the un-fancy challenge of paring down my wardrobe.

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simplifying will also happen in other aspects of my life -- our home and all the stuff(!!!) and my desk at work.  it's easy for me to procrastinate picking up random stuff and organizing it, so for 2015, i'm making it a priority.


#2:  work out consistently.

my goal is to work out consistently at least 3 days per week at the gym, with the real goal of 4-5 days of working out per week...but 3 (at the gym) is the minimum.  the absolute minimum.  i don't have to only work out at the gym, but going to kdr three times a week is important.  (and fun!)

this is going to be challenging, but i know i can do it.  there are going to be things that i will miss out on, but my weight loss journey is more important to me, so it should be important to my friends and family.  sometimes i will miss a dinner or have to reschedule something around my gym time, but i'm not going to apologize for putting myself first.  and most times, if i plan accordingly, i won't feel like i'm missing out on anything.  

also, it's too easy to make excuses, even in the face of your own goals that you want way more than x.  and x could be cookies, wine with the girls, or a piece of your grandmother's pie.  (or whatever it is for you.)  for me, sweets slay me.  if there is chocolate in the house, i want it.  if there's ice cream, i want at least a scoop.  cookies?  forget it.  but, i have goals and i won't let a few cookies get in my way.  i've made up my mind what i want and i'm going after it.

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#3:  trust myself.

this goes along with my 2015 word of the year:  fearless.  i just need to let go and give myself a chance.

i know what i can do.  
i know what i am capable of.  
i know how hard i can work.  
i know how to make good choices.  
i know i have room for improvement.
i know when i'm doing well.  
i know when i'm making bad choices.  
i know when i'm sabotaging my progress.
i know what it takes to succeed.

and i know i can do it.

i just need to let myself do it.  trust the process.  trust my abilities.  trust myself. 

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#4:  weigh-in once a month

weighing in at the gym is one of those tasks that has anxiety written all over it.  even when you know you've worked hard, sometimes the numbers aren't what you're hoping for, so it ends in disappointment, especially if you weigh in too often.  but, going along with my goal #2 to work out consistently and #3 to trust myself, if i can succeed at those two goals, then weighing in once a month should be a significantly less daunting task.

i used to weigh in every two weeks, which, for me, i think is too often.  the biggest thing that fuels my fire is progress in the numbers.  

seeing that i literally weigh 5 pounds less than i did last time means a lot to me.  it fires me up to keep working hard to weigh 5 pounds less next time too.

seeing that i literally burned 10 pounds of fat and gained 5 pounds of muscle means a lot to me.  it fires me up when my hard work shows itself in the numbers and makes me want to keep burning the fat pounds off and keep gaining strength.

seeing that i burned 10 pounds of fat and gained 10 pounds of muscle is encouraging, but when my weight is still the same, it feels like a bummer.  so, that's why i'm going to start weighing in once a month.

and staying off the scale at home.  (<--that's hard.)

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#5:  say "yes" more.

going along with my 2015 word of the year, i am ready to do some shit.

road trip?  sure!

5k?  why not two?!

cork and canvas?  obv.

ice skating?  gotta get back into it!

zip-lining?  yup!

hit the links?  got to!

cruise to cozumel?  already booked!

try a new food?  i'm always game!

sporting event?  only if it's the bruins, red sox, celtics, or pats!

concert?  it's been a couple years!

oh yeah....and let's add go-to-the-bank-to-get-pre-approved-for-a-mortgage to the list!  

so, long story short...2015 is going to be one hell of a ride.  and i can't wait!


have you set any goals for 2015?  please email them to me!  i would not only love to hear about them, but we can help support each other and get us to our goals faster!

happy new year!

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

day thirty

i did it!  i made it through 30 days!!!!!

now, i've told you my thoughts, goals, and some of my progress...and while hearing about my thoughts on this cleanse and how i'm feeling, the progress is really what we all want to know, amiright?

so, here it goes...what the numbers say for the entire 30 days:

weight:  -12.6 lbs
neck:  no change (but it looks thinner)
upper arms:  -1.5 inches
chest:  -5 inches
diaphragm:  -3.25 inches
waist:  -5 inches
abdomen:  -4.75 inches
buttocks:  -1.5 inches
upper thighs:  -1 inch
calves:  -1 inch
upper knees:  +1.5 inches

total inches lost (in 30 days!):  36.5

so...i'm hopping back on for another thirty days....who wants to try it out?  just email me here and i'll answer your questions and get you all signed up!

don't wait to change your life.  start today.  **real time update below**

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**real time update**

since completing my first 30 days, i jumped back on for another 30, but did not focus on weight loss for this month of thanksgiving, indulging, christmas, indulging, and indulging.  in fact, while i indulged far more than i planned, i maintained my weight.  so, yeah, that last stupid five pounds?  still got it.  but, i'm already back to being 100% committed to reaching my goals -- i'm back on the program and consistently back at the gym.

new goals will be posted in a few days.  because remember, 2015 = fearless. =)

2015 word of the year

it's hard to believe this year is coming to a close.  2014 was a big year for me...i got to marry my best friend!!!  leading up to our wedding, my heart and soul were so full of excitement and anticipation of our special day.  and every single day i remembered my word of the year:  love.  

after over six years of loving each other, we took the opportunity to share our love with our family and friends...right in front of them as we took our vows.  and if you haven't figured it out yet by now, our wedding was definitely the highlight of our year.  to be surrounded by the people most special to us, on the most beautiful day of the year, and expressing our emotions through the most thoughtful, most "us" ceremony...that is love.

my eyes still fill with tears and my heart wants to explode with gratitude for the support, encouragement, love, and generosity of all of our loved ones.  dang 2014, you were so good to us.

so that brings me to 2015...since it's, oh right, tomorrow.

i've been searching for a word to fully describe my feeling for this year ahead...for my goals and my dreams...and how one word might help guide me through the year, reminding me through its simplicity, of what i want 2015 to be.

what have i chosen for my 2015 word of the year?

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if you've been following along for awhile, or really any amount of time in the last couple years, you'll know that i am on a weight loss journey.  it's been long and it's been challenging.  sometimes i wonder if i will ever reach my goals.  and then sometimes i think i might actually be afraid to.

weird, i know.

i recently did some reading on being afraid of failure, being afraid of success, and i've also read some on self-sabotage, which i think i'm guilty of all three.  so, for 2015, i'm going to remember that there is nothing to be fearful of.  

if i want to succeed at my goals, i just need to work for them.

if i don't want to fail at my goals, i just need to work harder to succeed.

and damnit, why don't i just stop getting in my own way?

so, for 2015, i'm throwing caution to the wind and am trying to remember what life was like 25 years ago and how that can help me now.  because as an 8 year old, i was fearless.  

i would hold the massive boa constrictor at the montshire museum, while my (scared to death of snakes) mom would look on from the furthest corner of the room (as close to the exit as possible).  

i would be the one running up the loads of steps to get to the tallest water slide at water country.  

i even tried octopus when i was in third grade!  (i liked it!)

there was very little that i was afraid of at age 8...if anything.  and i don't know how i got so fearful as i've matured and aged.  i'm only 33, but i've created fear in my own mind.  and it's high time i turn that bus around.

i'm terrified of getting injured.  i'm terrified of requiring surgery.  i'm terrified of childbirth.  i'm terrified of gaining weight.  i'm terrified of having loose skin if i lose too much weight.  and i'm terrified of losing those i love dearest.

two of those i think are reasonable fears:  childbirth -- i mean, that's gonna hurt, despite knowing the outcome is more than worth the pain; and losing those i love dearest -- which is completely out of my control, so i should come to peace with it.

everything else?  fearless.

i'm fearlessly committing to me.  to go to the gym.  to give it all i've got.  to eat right and indulge occasionally.  to make progress on my goals.  to smash my goals.  to make new goals.  and smash them too.  

i'm fearlessly saying yes to things i might have otherwise been to afraid of:  things like zip-lining and ropes courses.

and, to reward myself when i succeed at these things.  mani/pedi?  heck yes!  massage... duh!  new clothes?  they'll be necessary.

so i'm heading fearlessly into 2015 knowing that while 2014 was the best year yet, next year can only improve.  

i will fearlessly love my husband, parents, family, and friends.

i will fearlessly excel at my job(s).

i will fearlessly try new things.

i will fearlessly give of myself to others.

i will fearlessly give to myself what i need:  motivation, encouragement, and love.

in 2015, i will be fearless.

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